A Place of Hope...A Place of Healing
The Father's Ranch is a Christ centered counseling ministry offering a 6 month to eighteen month residential program. This program is designed for women between the ages of 18 and 40 years who are struggling with destructive, life-controlling issues. These might include drug or alcohol addiction, eating disorders, and behavioral or emotional problems. Girls under the age of 18 should consider Redeemer’s Boarding School, another ministry arm of The Father’s Ranch Ministries. We will consider women over the age of 40 on a case by case basis. We seek to provide the kind of long-term structured help that is often beyond the ability of family and friends.
The Father's Ranch is located in the beautiful, mountainous country of the Okanogan Highlands in North-Central Washington State. This rural location and agricultural setting provides a refuge far from the confusion, pressure and temptations of familiar territory.
Our programs focus on the Lord Jesus Christ and the Gospel (good news) of His life, death, resurrection and continuing ministry in and through the lives of His people. We believe that the historic Christian message is the basis for a salvation that encompasses a life-transforming relationship with God in this life, and the hope of heaven in the next life. We believe that in order for true behavioral change to occur, that change within the mind must occur first. We take a Romans chapter 12:2 approach to healing: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” Because of this, you can expect to learn the following while at TFR:
Basic Biblical Theology (Study of Who God Is) Dealing with fear, anxiety, worry, & trials
Basic Biblical Anthropology (Study of Who Man Is) Biblical view of marriage, love, sex, & family
Old Testament Survey Biblical understanding of self esteem
New Testament Survey How to make healthy/Biblical decisions
Basic Hermeneutics How to handle anger, stress, and suffering
Biblical roles or husband and wife Biblical conflict resolution and forgiveness
The Father's Ranch is made up of the long-term Staff, Interns, and Students (those who come for help). Together, they make up a dynamic Christian community that provides healing and growth through discipleship, fellowship, Bible study and other Christian disciplines. Discipleship takes place through involvement in three community dynamics -- meaningful work, a caring family environment, and spiritual training.
A typical week in these programs includes a balance of work, Bible study, prayer, worship, one on one discipleship, organized group activities and free time. The work includes caring for animals, cutting wood, gardening, canning, maintenance, food preparation, housekeeping, and construction. The work is necessary to provide for the needs of The Father's Ranch "family," but also provides students with real life illustrations of Biblical principles. This facilitates the development of more accurate perceptions of life and the cultivation of mature and healthy relational skills.
Biblical instruction and guidance are woven into all areas of work and play. The family-like environment provides a healthy support system in which spiritual and emotional healing and growth can take place. The need for personal faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and His Gospel is stressed as the bedrock foundation of all change, change that deals with the deepest and most profound issues of this life and the life to come.
What You Can Expect
What Is Expected Of You
"But from there you will seek the LORD your God, and you will find Him if you seek Him with all your heart and with all your soul.” (Deuteronomy 4:29)
Sincerity: If you want to "play games", The Father's Ranch is not the place for you. Please pursue a sincere desire to understand the truths concerning God, the Bible, the Gospel (good news) of Jesus Christ, and what it means to be a Christian.
Honesty: Without honesty there can be no real change. Dishonesty comes in various forms; if it is a problem for you, then be willing to admit to it and desire accountability. Mutual trust is very important. Trust that we have your best interests in mind. Please be completely honest about your past, including: unresolved legal problems, people looking for you, financial obligations, severe or unusual sexual struggles, etc. We are often able to help Students address these issues.
Humility: "God is opposed to the proud but gives grace to the humble"- Proverbs 3:34. The proud will struggle with the authority and structure at The Father's Ranch. A lack of humility prevents teachability. You will not succeed in this program if you are not humble.
Obedience: We expect a willing compliance with the guidance and direction given by The Father's Ranch Staff (men and women serving long-term at The Father's Ranch) and Interns (women serving on a short-term basis) concerning what is written in this document and with daily procedural issues surrounding work, play and living together in an orderly fashion.
Diligence: Be prepared to put yourself totally into the program. You must demonstrate an ability to follow the rules and satisfactorily complete homework assignment and work duties with a proper attitude.
Commitment: You must arrive with the goal of completing at least the first six-months. The majority of the issues that plague our residents didn't develop in a short 6-month period and escaping from these entanglements in under 6 months usually isn't very realistic.
For Your Information and Consideration
You should be aware of what some Students find difficult to adjust to in the Women’s Program:
Know that this is an explicitly Christian program.
Circumstances that May Require a Student to Depart the Program Early:
If medical issues arise that become a serious obstacle to a normal participation in the Program, arrangements will be made for you to return home to recover and then resume the Program at the earliest possible date. The Father's Ranch is not a place to convalesce and we do not have the resources to make frequent trips to medical facilities for tests and treatment.
If the Student's emotional, psychological or spiritual needs turn out to be beyond the ability of the existing Program and personnel to provide a safe, stable and fruitful environment, the student will be required to leave. This is for the sake of the particular Student as well as the other Students and Interns who are in the Program.
Grounds for Dismissal from The Father's Ranch
It is also important to have a clear understanding, from the beginning, of the kinds of behavior that will result in the termination of a Student's time at The Father's Ranch. These are in place for your safety and protection.
Dismissing a student is usually distressing for the individual and always so for the staff of The Father's Ranch. When dismissal occurs as a consequence of behavior or attitudes that are incompatible with growth and change, our hope and prayer is that even this experience will be used by God as a part of His awakening discipline that will ultimately result in blessing. We have confidence that this can be true both from Scripture and in our experience with students in the past. The door is almost always open for a person's return to the program should an openness of heart be evident at a later date.
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise.” (Proverbs 12:15)
Discipline and correction, resulting from violation of the accepted Program boundaries and behavior will be given in the form of additional work, homework, or restriction from special activities. Privileges are earned and maintained by the student.
Ministry and Mentoring
Before God, we seek to respect and honor each student and the information they entrust to us but some of this information will be communicated to other Interns, Long-term staff, or, in some cases, sponsors. This kind of communication is not taken lightly and only happens if, in our judgment, it is appropriate and beneficial. You will need to trust our judgment in this matter.
We are a counseling and discipling ministry. If this is not the kind of "counseling relationship" that you are seeking; if you demand strict and exclusive confidentiality between you and the person with whom you meet, The Father's Ranch is not the right place for you.
General Rules for TFR's Program
We must know where you are in order to protect and provide for you. You will be with a Staff person at all times, on and off the property as long as we deem this in the best interest of you and the Program. This is what we call "coverage".
No smoking is permitted at The Father's Ranch. For many students, their smoking is deeply entrenched in a destructive lifestyle. The testimony of many who have finished the program, gone out and 'crashed and burned' is that starting to smoke again was the first step back to the life they are seeking to leave behind. No smoking being the reality here, if you smoke, you would do yourself a favor to cut down as much as possible before you come. We are open to the nicotine patches and the gums to help you get over this addiction.
We desire to protect you from destructive speech and to teach you to build others up with words. In order to do this we expect each person at The Father's Ranch to refrain from:
Talking boastfully of past sin; sexually explicit or suggestive talk; vulgar language; complaining and unconstructive criticism; sarcasm, taunting, ridicule and joking at the expense of others; gossip; abusive language. You get the idea. . . We take this very seriously.
General Dress and Appearance
“. . . the women should adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation . . .” (1st Timothy 2:9)
Christian Relating and Stewardship
“...continuing daily with one accord...they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart.” (Acts 2:46)
Our goal is an atmosphere that is gracious and thankful in sharing together in the bounty of God's provision of our daily bread. We believe that eating is an important part of every day and should be an enjoyable experience. Because of the nature of the many problems we are working with at TFR there is a strict eating policy for all residents and staff.
Media Policies (music, tech, movies, radio, TV, etc)
Our society's media is among the most powerful, seductive and molding forces the world has ever known. We can only know how "deeply molded" we are by stepping back from these influences for a season of “fasting”. Your time at The Father's Ranch will be a form of fasting with regard to the amount of input that you are probably used to from various forms of electronic and social media. Spiritual fasting is the abstaining for a season from that which is 'lawful' for the pursuit of some spiritual purpose.
Music at The Father's Ranch is necessarily a public experience. If music is played, all who desire to remain in the room must listen also. Without addressing any musical style in particular, not all music contributes to the spiritual atmosphere that we desire to promote at The Father's Ranch.
Another reality is that many of the Students who come to The Father's Ranch for help have sin and bondage issues that are deeply rooted in particular musical forms. Part of their freedom always involves separating themselves from this type of music, whether it comes in a 'Christian' or a secular package. Therefore, TFR will provide all music, media, tech, movies and entertainment.
We realize that not everyone moving into The Father’s Ranch will be on medication. However, a high percentage of the ladies in our program are. Because of that, here are some medication procedures to keep in mind as you plan your trip to TFR.
We realize that occasional medical, dental, or vision appointments may be necessary. We encourage you to try to resolve all of these before entering our program. We operate with limited staff and very little opportunity to transport residents to appointments, except in the case of emergencies. Students will be charged a transportation fee for every trip they require. This fee varies depending upon the distance and time of travel. Sponsors are expected to pay these fees.
Because of the treatment of drug and alcohol addictions in our facility, we implement medical appointment policies that we will strictly enforce for the safety and well being of all our ladies at TFR.
The Father’s Ranch Ministries desires to provide a safe place for the children living here, and for visiting children. In order to do this we need to set boundaries that Parents, Staff, Interns, and Students, will follow.
Children are a gift from God and need to be protected from unwanted physical contact. In a setting as large as ours it is difficult for parents to get to know everyone. This makes it difficult to decide who they would trust picking up or holding their children.
Please understand that rules at TFR are designed to provide structure and safety for all.